“Man I was so depressed yesterday but thanks for taking me to that movie… I feel so much better now!”
Just like this, we often hear use of the word ‘depression’, which people do quite casually, for almost everything.
Only if they knew severity of what depression is like.
When I say the word ‘depressed’,
you immediately pictured a person sitting in front of a window, all alone, sad, quite and occasionally teary.
This is what we think depression looks like, BUT that is not ONLY how it looks like.
If you find your colleague in such state, you will for sure go to them, ask them, sympathize with them and even offer help if you can. In general people are that generous and caring, I believe. But will you do the same for a person who’s highly irritable, who’s ready to pick an argument, throws tantrum as you approach…
no you won’t.
That’s the person you don’t want to see.
That’s the person you will never want to talk to.
That’s the person, you know is unhappy but you’ll probably think he deserves it, is responsible for it.
You know it’s easier to console a snivelling person than a threatening one. You think that the latter is harmful, that they’re still strong and they can take care of themselves…
Well, they can’t.
A person who looks sad and a person who’s irritable, needs the same help.
They are as vulnerable as the prior but they fail to show it or to express it in a more acceptable way.
They’re highly defensive so it’s difficult to pierce that wall, but if you somehow manage to do that, you’ll find a helpless person craving for help, craving for comfort, craving for you to listen… just listen!
Today on the occasion of World Health Day, this is my tiny effort to help people understand Depression in a broader way, so that you give attention to people who are often ignored and isolated by others.
Going in depression is not something you someday wake up and find yourself in. It’s a process… easily identifiable if you pay some attention.
Sadness is mild and depression is it’s intense form. You can overcome sadness by a small talk with a friend, a movie or simply by engaging in your favorite hobby. They’re not helpful in case of depression.
Overcoming depression requires immense attention, months of talk therapy and medicinal help too.
If you’re helping someone to overcome this state of mind you must have patience, empathy and will to help. Helping someone like this can be a frustrating thing to do so it’s better if you watch for early symptoms and prevent this situation.
Suddenly eating a lot or loss of appetite is one sign or gaining and losing weight without any change in the diet are very crucial point to look for as generally it’s not linked with depression.
There are many general symptoms like feeling worthless, helpless, hopeless… not getting proper sleep or sleeping too much. Losing interest in activities you used to enjoy once…guilt can consume such people.
Depression if left untreated will mostly lead to suicide and this is why you should help such people because suicide in not matter of one person but the whole family.
On the last note,
Help such people because you know how it’s like, how it feels like as I’m sure you might have experienced something similar in your life. Just imagine the same feeling multiplied by 50 times.
It’s not bearable, it’s not acceptable.
Depression is like floating in dark fog with no control… you desperately flutter your legs but you just can’t come down…
Help these people, if not much, then connect them with a good mental health professional.
Help, because someday you might need it.